we’ve loosely discussed marriage in the past. i think we’ve always known that it was likely to happen, even when we first dated over four years ago. recently, it’s become a more serious conversation. specific details of our individual situations aside, it’s a very plausible next step for us.
when i think of myself getting married, i don’t have a big, grandiose plan. i sometimes get little ideas, but nothing extravagant. a small ceremony for friends and family, fairly casual. and a big, festive party for everyone afterward. home-cooked food, “hiring” friends as photographers… simple.
before any of that can really be considered and set in stone, we have to think about the engagement. i never gave it much thought… but now, as this point in my life seems to be approaching, i know that i don’t want to be surprised. i don’t expect, or even have any desire for, him to drop to one knee, whether in public or alone. i don’t want him to prepare a speech. i don’t want him to feel obligated to buy a ring. in fact, i really don’t want an engagement ring at all.
when i think about our relationship, everything has been almost entirely mutual. before we dated the first time, i remember saying “we act like boyfriend and girlfriend, so should we be boyfriend and girlfriend?” haha. he said yes, but also confessed that he had been wracking his brain trying to find the perfect opportunity and the right way to ask me to go out with him. the second time around, it was totally unspoken. i want the decision to be engaged that way too.
am i practical or just boring? ha.